
"Well, being from a dysfunctional family doesn't determine how good a father or husband you'll be." I tell him. "Me? I'm married..20 years. Two kids."
I didn't ask him if he was gay, bi or whatever. I don't think after almost 30 years that it was my right to infringe on his personal life like that - even though he opened the door by saying "that and other reasons" line. After all..this wasn't about sex...it was about apologizing, about saying sorry...it was about closure.
I start another email to him:
"Anyway...I don't want to keep you. Like I said I've always wondered what became of you - and I think I owe you somewhat of an apology - I missed work that last night but it really wasn't intentional - I believe I was seriously wasted that day and honestly really forgot that I had to work.
"Maybe all this sounds stupid - maybe you never gave it a second thought. But over the years I thought about how nice a gesture that night was - or would have been and how callous or uncaring I may have seemed. But I was a young, scared (wasted) kid.

Anyway, if you're by me, I think I owe you a slice. ;) "
His response:
"First of all, it's great to hear from you. I too often wondered what happened to you. Second, you don't owe me an apology. We were both young, trying to figure out which end was up. I don't hold grudges. I hope we continue to keep in touch and will take you up on that slice if I make it by your way."

At least this one small thing in my life..I can absolve.
Closure.